Tuesday, January 7, 2014


It's my word for 2014.

It's not some new awakening, revelation or newfound jingle.
But I believe in it. And so I am moving forward into 2014 with it. 

To be perfectly honest, I have been agonizing over this whole idea of choosing one word to focus on for the entire 365 days of 2014. For someone who thinks variety is the spice of life, this torture of choosing one word is right up there with asking me what my favorite song is. It just depends on the day. It's all relative to the moment for me.

I kept tossing handful of words in my mind. Discipline, revival, create, catalyst, rest, be, engage, justly, and back to real I came. I just wanted a word that was more impressive sounding, less ordinary. But then it hit me. REAL is everything but ordinary. It's one of the things that attracts me like nothing else and what draws others in to me and it's all of those things listed up there in one simple word.  

On top of that, here's what I know. Finally for the love of all things good and holy, I have accepted and embraced with a ton of affection, that being real, not in a self serving way but in a being true to the things God planted in your heart way, is the only way to find peace and more importantly to bear fruit and honor the God, who so specifically purposed you before time for such a unique journey. 

Here's the catch. Getting real hurts. 

It goes way deeper than any surface performance you can put on when you waltz into church on any given Sunday morning. It touches the parts of your life that a causal "fine" in response to a " Hey, How are you?" slung at you in passing will ever even acknowledge. In fact it pushes you from just saying words to actually doing words.... and then that's when the rubber meets the road. It makes a mess of that wall you have built up around your heart and it completely wrecks any semblance of "normal", whatever that is anyway.

It has an aversion to "fitting" in expectations little box. 

It is messier than a stubborn toddlers first attemptt at feeding themselves spaghetti, next to and in perfect harmony with, the other toddler at your table who just spilled their entire glass of milk all over the dog.... who is now shaking & wallowing over your freshly mopped floor or even better freshly vacuumed rug... Got a visual...

 Just keepin' it real.... 

It can be a little chaotic, or a lot chaotic, just brace yourself, bury your face in the word of God and press into the crazy of it all. Stand, even when it feels like you are running, because you can bet along the journey to being authentically you, there will be times when you feel farther and farther away from all things that were once all encompassing. And sometimes it's not that you are running at all, it's just that you never knew what it was really like to stand with Christ, for the purpose he put in your hear, for the things that matter to Him and break His heart. Yes, it's chaos. But it is good.

There will be casualties.

Relationships, lifestyles, interests, how you spend your money, your time, your affections, your identity, your image, your reputation, the music you listen to the things you allow into your mind, the words you speak, they often make the first cut. You learn just how bad pruning hurts, but you also feel God growing within you new life. With roots deeply planted in your soul, you can literally feel the Holy Spirit raising up in you purpose, new courage, new life. 

Write those moments down, the ones where He shows himself, because in an instant the enemy will try to snatch them up.
Please my people, believe this: Satan's mission is to destroy you. 
The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full.( John 10:10)
Not your life after death, because that is sealed at your salvation, he comes to destroy this life, this infinitely small bit of time we are here to fulfill the call on our lives {That life, that by the way Jesus paid one heck of a price for}.  

Tattoo if you will, those feelings of courage and purpose and new life in your heart and in your mind and on paper so that when Satan attempts to cut you at your core, to steal what God has planted, to make you believe his lies about yourself and your worth and your ability and purpose, make sure those moments are not erasable, put them where they are undeniably sealed. Remember that Jesus didn't die for you to simply cruise through play dates and to do list and mundane jobs, but God sent Jesus because He wanted you to live life to the full!
"Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, 14 I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus."
Philippians 3:13-14

This little quote from the Velveteen Rabbit is one of my favorites of all time.

Real isn't how you are made,' said the Skin Horse. 'It's a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real.'

'Does it hurt?' asked the Rabbit.

'Sometimes,' said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. 'When you are Real you don't mind being hurt.'

'Does it happen all at once, like being wound up,' he asked, 'or bit by bit?'

'It doesn't happen all at once,' said the Skin Horse. 'You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand.”
Let's become real in 2014 together shall we? Let's promise to throw off the hindrances of fear and shame and guilt or disappointment that cripple our minds and steal our hope and let us stand in the midst of our reality, our mess, our brokenness our man made castles, our playing it safe, our misunderstandings and the reality of possibly being misunderstood and let's just be authentically confident in who God spared his one and only son for us to be. It won't be easy, but it will be worth it. And we just might make the world a better place along the way or we might just give someone else the courage to be real too and wouldn't that be lovely.....  
Love and Blessings,



  1. I've been toying with two words and can't settle on one for the year because they kind of go hand in hand. Enjoy is one. I need to stop and enjoy the moments that I have been blessed with and the opportunities that come my way. The second word is Pause. My pace is so hectic that I need to take time to stop and reflect before moving on to something else. But, also pause to enjoy the relationships that I have in my life as well.

  2. Love it...and thankful you shared the message so that others, like me, could share in this unique experience of one word. I think it will be quite interesting, to keep a list of each person's "word" and I wonder just how linked they will be. For example, you are REAL and I am IMPACT - linked? Absolutely. Why? Because keeping it real, being real makes an impact. Making an impact on something or someone, takes being REAL. God is amazing how He perfectly weaves lives together. Muah!


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